Sometimes it sucks to be a kid. Sure, we adults have jobs and bills (usually), but we also don’t have backstabbing so-called friends making us doubt ourselves. Well, I guess we do, but since we’re grown-ups, we deal with that kinda crap a bit more effectively. Usually.
How to Unbreakup is about how the decisions we make can affect us for years to come. What I like about it is that rather than being all preachy about it and looking too far into the future, How to Unbreakup keeps those consequences within a few years. So instead of a teenager reading about how this not so great decision will hurt them in 20 years (and who cares about 20 years in the future when you’re 14), it shows how it can hurt them in a more immediate period (3 years).
Peer pressure is a huge part of what makes life as a kid suck sometimes. It’s that fierce desire to fit in and have the approval of her peers that influences Grace to breakup with her BFF turned boyfriend (Sage) after only a few days. She seems to know it’s a bad decision at the time, but as a 14-year-old kid, she’s too worried about some nastiness she heard from a couple of so-called friends.
And boy, does she pay for it. Not only does she lose Sage, but she loses herself. It’s exhausting to pretend to be someone you’re not. It’s exhausting to miss something wonderful that you threw away. So, while it’s a bit abrupt and contrived the way that Grace decides she wants to unbreakup with Sage (and the circumstances that allow her to try), I loved it. I love that she’s so tired of who she’s become that she wants to reclaim herself and her friendship with Sage. I love her courage and willingness to risk rejection. We all know how hard rejection can be to deal with as adults. It’s exponentially worse when you’re a teenager, right?
I cried, laughed, and loved with Grace and Sage. Their story really hit home with me. I mean, we all have regrets. How to Unbreakup shows us that it’s not always too late to go back and make another choice.
Rebekah Purdy grew up in Michigan, where she spent many late nights armed with a good book and a flashlight. When not hiding at her computer and getting lost in her stories, she enjoys reading, singing, soccer, swimming, football, camping, playing video games and hanging out with her kids. She loves the unexplainable like Bigfoot, the Dogman, and the Loch Ness Monster (lots of good story material)! She admits to still having all the books she bought throughout her childhood and teen years, and she may or may not have an obsession with anything chocolate…